So a few years ago, we had no idea how to express our love to each other in ways that we’d both receive it. (Yeah, not so good!)
I used to tell my wife often that I love her, she’s beautiful, and I care–but it went on unhearing ears.
One of her main languages is physical touch. That means appropriate touch fills up her love tank more than almost anything else, and all the words I was saying went in one ear and out the other.
My main language is all around words, so when she would be smothering me with physical affection, all I wanted was to hear the words, “I love you” or “I’m so proud of you”.
This lead to years of frustration and her feeling unloved, regardless of what I said. And me feeling smothered and not truly loved. (Oops.)
Now, when we want to express our love for each other and fill up those love tanks, we speak each other’s languages.
We do things like this:
I play with her hair, kiss her hands, snuggle her ear, or rub her back.
She leaves me love notes, tells me she admires me, or sends me a text full of affirmations.
We’ve given each other a cheat sheet of the phrases, touches, actions and more that are the fastest and most efficient way to fill up our love tanks, and guess what?
We’ve got that exact worksheet here just for you!
(Yes, fo’ free!)
Simply download the worksheet below, complete it “Mad-Libs” style and exchange it with your partner!
It’s a Lover’s Cheat Sheet.
(Hey, sometimes it’s okay to cheat when it comes to loving you up!)
Because let’s get real here, we aren’t mind readers and we don’t always know how best to show our love in the ways that our partners need us to–so why not give them the answers ahead of time? (Yes, that’s allowed!)
So click the download below and all that info is yours to use! (We can’t wait to share it with you!) If you find it helpful, please feel free to share this article with those who will love it just as much as you!